Drinking a Chang beer with a chang! Nov. ’04

Drinking a Chang with a chang!

Drinking a Chang beer with a chang! Nov. ’04

Well, it is an honor to finally write a blog on this webpage. I have been reading everyone’s postings for about one month now, and I have to say that coming to this site to read blogs has been something that I have looked forward to each and everyday.

Since this is my first entry, I would like to tell everyone a little bit about myself. I was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest (Seattle to be specific). I made my first trip to Thailand in March of 2000. Ever since then I have tried to make yearly treks back, as it is truly the loveliest place on earth. The food, the people, the language…okay, everything!

I don’t wish to get too specific on my maiden voyage into blog-land, so allow me the indulgence of rambling on a bit out of chronological order. My intent, later on, is to write about how I came to know about Thailand, and how I became enthralled with everything that is the Land of Smiles, and my ensuing adventures!

Back to a little introduction of myself. I recently was married (Feb. 14, ’05) to a Thai woman. Her name is Sudaporn and she’s the love of my life. I met her in Bangkok back in November of 2003. I was fortunate enough to meet her on the second day of my 30-day trip (my third trip to Thailand). We went everywhere together. It made my vacation, as Bill & Ted would say, “most excellent!”

Anyways, I made two more trips back to see her and to spend time with her family. Then she came back to live with me. I couldn’t believe how smooth it was to get her Fiancee Visa. I heard all sorts of horror stories; but our saga went off without a hitch. She has been here in the States since December ’04. We were married 2 1/2 months later. She’s now in ESL classes at a nearby technical college.

My Wife, Sudaporn

Sudaporn (Pon)

Okay, so that is where I’m at now. Let me tell you where I’m going. In 12 years and 2 days (yep, it’s that exact) I am going to retire from my job and move to Thailand to live permanently. My wife, I will now refer to her as Pon, bought some land near her parents’ village and we are going to build a house there, hopefully as early as three years from now. It’s a small village 31km outside of Chiang Rai called Bahn Bong Chang. It’s a pretty cool place.

Pon’s parents are rice farmers. They are lovely people and they readily accepted me as one of their own (a somewhat pale version of a Thai son, I reckon!) Pon has two siblings; an older brother and an older sister. Both of them have moved to Bangkok for a better life. Pon’s sister is a seamstress and her brother is a manager at a disco.

Pon’s dad headed for the fields!

I hope I haven’t rambled on too much. Like I wrote earlier, this is my very first blog ever. I’m feeling my way around, so please bear with me. My intention is to not only tell you about my adventures, but I would like to write blogs that are subject-specific. My aim is to produce a blog that is thoughtful, entertaining, and at times, thought-provoking. Thank you very much!

On the river in Chiang Rai

On the river in Chiang Rai

8 responses to “Drinking a Chang beer with a chang! Nov. ’04

  1. Your story is so heart-moving!

    Just one question, how common is Farang-Thai marriage in Thailand? What is the typical profile of these Thai women?

  2. To tell you the truth, Kitjar (may I call you that?),
    I don’t feel qualified to answer your question, as far as the commonality of the marriage. I can say that I have seen a lot of Farang men with Thai (or Asian) women all about the country, but I don’t know if they are married. I could point out, however, that in the tourist districts of Bangkok, namely Suhkumvit, there is a shop on every other other corner (it seems) that offers some type of service for foreigners that are marrying Thai women. I bet it is quite prevalent. Again, I offer the caveat, that I am hardly qualified to proffer more than a pedestrian observation.
    As for the “typical” profile of the women, again, I must apologize. I am someone who is reticent to offer an opinion on what is “typical” in such cases. In every country that has an abundance of poverty, you will see women trying to make a better life for themselves. Thailand is no exception. Take that for what you may. Having said that, again, I am just a guy that has been to Thailand but a few times, and I lucked out by marrying a sweet Thai girl from a good upbringing.

  3. Welcome to thai-blogs.

    Wish my fiancee’s family home was somewhere like in Chiang Rai! for two reasons: one – i wouldn’t have to go their so often cause its was just to darned far and, two – the scenery!

    Steve here, is getting married soon so certainly a blog or two called for there.

  4. First of all, Steve, I feel honored that you have read my blog and have commented on it. I have been following your blogs, and I really admire you. I always look forward to reading what you have to say. Second, when is the wedding and where is it? May I offer a blessing this far in advance (or not so far?)? Nice to meet you.


  5. Welcome to the Blog, EJ! And a hello from a wife of a farang. HAHA. Actually, the way Brandon put it is that he’s a husband of a Thai. Heh. 😉

    (And a side note to SteveSuphan, CONGRATS…when’s the big day??)

  6. Welcome to the blogs! I like the 12 years 2 days count down. You go!
    Looking forward to reading your forth coming blogs and, having a vested intrest, how long did your finacee visa take?

    Oh, Congratulations on your marriage and best wishes to the both of you!

  7. Thank you for the welcomes, Oakmonster and Pat. It is great to be here writing about things that I feel so passionately about.

    Pat, I will tell you about this fiancee visa. Let’s see…I met Pon in November of 2003. I got back to the States on the 2nd or 3rd of December and I immediately began working on Pon’s application. I think I mailed it in between the 2nd and 3rd week of December (along with the required $110).

    On March 17, 2004 I was informed that my application had been received, and that I should hear back from them with 180 days as to whether or not my application was approved (!!!..what the….? 6 whole months!?)

    On July 7, 2004 I was informed that my application was approved and that the US embassy in Bangkok was sending a packet to Pon at her apartment (medical appointments and such). Pon wrote me soon after and said that she had received an appointment letter to go to the US embassy on the 19th of November, 2004.

    November 17, 2004: I arrive in Bangkok. Two days later Pon and I go to the embassy together for her appointment. We answer two questions: 1) Is this man EJ? (he actually said my full name) and 2) do you have any children. He then approved Pon’s application.

    December 2, 2004: We arrive in the U.S. approximately 11 months after I initiated the paperwork. Not too bad considering what I’ve heard. We have been back to INS twice for followups, and Pon is expecting her green card in the mail.

  8. Well EJ, Oakie and Pat and everyone else out there. You are all welcome to me wedding on 22 October in BKK.
    If you can’t make it im sure that i’ll be writing about it anyway, should be a bit of a laugh!

    Thai-marriage is common for sure. Most common is with the girls from the rural north-east area of the country, they like Farang the most.

    My fiancee is from Nakhorn Sawan originally, half-way from BKK to Chiang-Mai